Thursday, May 31, 2012

What They Don't Tell You About Labor

Ø  The pain is unexplainable…and there’s a reason. Old moms don’t tell moms-to-be what labor is REALLY like, because we don’t want to scare you! LOL

Ø  Showers really do help with back labor!

Ø  Breathing is key! Slow deep breaths help. Also avoid high pitch screams. Screaming tenses up your muscles, if you must let out noise in pain, try low grunts as you exhale.

Ø  A small number of mommies-to-be actually feel their waters break! I wasn’t one of them L the doctor had to break my water once I was in active labor. IF you have an epidural, you don’t feel it; I can’t speak for nature births however.

Ø  Epidurals are a gift and a curse. Don’t feel bad at all if you make the decision to get one. Science and medicine is much more advanced than it was in the ice age; take advantage of science…and medicine. Downfall…after the epidural you can’t move from the bed and your entire lower region is pretty numb…hey but you don’t feel contractions. Pick your poison! (I will post an entire post on epidurals later)

Ø  After hours of laboring, when you get the OK to push you go into deep “focus mode” and supermommie powers surface!

Ø  You have to be 10cm dilated before you are allowed to push. Active labor is when you are 4-7cm dilated. You can be in early labor for weeks and sometimes months. I found out I was 2cm dilated on Valentine’s day (February 14th) and didn’t give birth until March 5th. (I was actually 3cm when I was admitted into the hospital that morning.)

Ø  If you push the “wrong” way…the baby isn’t the only thing that will come out. (Use your imagination)

Ø  Once you are admitted into the hospital, you are not allowed to eat, so labor at home as long as possible. Put a lil something in your tummy if you can because there is no telling how long you will be in labor and you need all your energy for the long day ahead.

Ø  Ice chips really are magical!

Ø  Sex can induce labor…semen softens the cervix and can possibly speed things up a bit, but it depends on the mommie and her body.

Ø  Giving birth is serious! If you are experiencing anything abnormal be sure to alert your health care provider immediately! You don’t want to put yourself or your child(ren) at risk.  

Ø  C-sections are only advised in emergencies due to the serious nature of them. Yes it is considered surgery and you are awake.

Ø  Pitocin is a drug that speeds up labor and contractions.

Ø  Some doctors advise against holding someone’s hand because there have been reports of broken hands in the delivery room. I held on to Derek’s neck! LOL

Ø  It’s is one of the most wonderful, mind boggling, memorable, painful, pleasant, life bringing experience!

Tuesday, May 29, 2012

OMG...SMH...Guess Where I Pumped Today!


Today was one of those “challenging” days. The morning started off like any morning…Dreux woke up around 5 a.m. looking to be fed. I fed her and snuggled up with her for two more hours. The longer we lay there, the more I begin not wanting to get up and get ready to head to work. I received an e-mail explaining the assignment I was scheduled on for the week. I was placed on a new client and the team was reporting to the client’s office instead of my home office for the week. After changing Dreux a second time, changing the diaper genie, and attempting to clean up and mask the aroma of spit-up from my arms and chest, I was heading out the door. (I didn’t have time to change my out of my only clean nursing bra so I threw on a cami and went on my way.)

As I walked to the bus stop I took a look at my Transit App to determine the quickest possible way to get to the client. It was already 8:15a.m. and I had never been to this office. Anyone who knows me knows I have trouble with any kind of directions. I went on a leap of faith! Two trains, a bus, and a few walking blocks later I arrive- 9:02 a.m. I probably could have made it at exactly 9am, had I began walking in the right direction the first time when I got off the train. However I made it!

Walked into the audit room and as usual, I’m the only woman on the team. This normally would not bother me, but today it did. I forgot to inquire about a private or nursing room I could use while out here on the client. I spotted a lady receptionist and figured she would be the best person to ask. 2 hours later my worst nightmare became a reality- there was nowhere for me to pump. I looked at my clock on my computer as the pain began to set in. It was 11:27am and the last time I “relieved” these jugs was at 5am! I had to figure something out quick.

Frustration, confusion, and anxiety, coupled with pain took over my body. “The only place I can offer is the handicap bathroom or the storage closet” the receptionist explained. The storage closet had a huge boiler, a few cleaning supplies, dust bunnies and the door had no lock—I choose the handicap bathroom.

Luckily the bathroom came equipped with a can of Lysol, a chair, and an outlet. After putting my frustrations and anger to the side for the moment, I disinfected the sink placed a few paper towels down in the chair and began to pump –carefully.

This made me realize how unaware some companies are about the importance of providing a clean and comfortable place for nursing moms to express breast milk while at work. It’s hard enough we (young working mommies) have to leave our little ones, but not being able to properly and safely pump while at work, shouldn’t be a hassle. Although there are no federal laws on breast pumping at work:

§  Forty-five states, the District of Columbia and the Virgin Islands have laws that specifically allow women to breastfeed in any public or private location. (Alabama, Alaska, Arizona, Arkansas, California, Colorado, Connecticut, Delaware, Florida, Georgia, Hawaii, Illinois, Indiana, Iowa, Kansas, Kentucky, Louisiana, Maine, Maryland, Massachusetts, Minnesota, Mississippi, Missouri, Montana, Nebraska, Nevada, New Hampshire, New Jersey, New Mexico, New York, North Carolina, North Dakota, Ohio, Oklahoma, Oregon, Pennsylvania, Rhode Island, South Carolina, Tennessee, Texas, Utah, Vermont, Washington, Wisconsin and Wyoming.)

§  Twenty-eight states, the District of Columbia and the Virgin Islands exempt breastfeeding from public indecency laws. (Alaska, Arizona, Arkansas, Florida, Illinois, Kentucky, Louisiana, Massachusetts, Michigan, Minnesota, Mississippi, Montana, Nevada, New Hampshire, New York, North Carolina, North Dakota, Oklahoma, Pennsylvania, Rhode Island, South Carolina, South Dakota, Tennessee, Utah, Virginia, Washington, Wisconsin and Wyoming.)

§  Twenty-four states, the District of Columbia and Puerto Rico have laws related to breastfeeding in the workplace. (Arkansas, California, Colorado, Connecticut, Georgia, Hawaii, Illinois, Indiana, Maine, Minnesota, Mississippi, Montana, New Mexico, New York, North Dakota, Oklahoma, Oregon, Rhode Island, Tennessee, Texas, Vermont, Virginia, Washington and Wyoming.)

§  Twelve states and Puerto Rico exempt breastfeeding mothers from jury duty. (California, Idaho, Illinois, Iowa, Kansas, Kentucky, Mississippi, Montana, Nebraska, Oklahoma, Oregon and Virginia.)

§  Five states and Puerto Rico have implemented or encouraged the development of a breastfeeding awareness education campaign. (California, Illinois, Minnesota, Missouri and Vermont.)[i]



In Illinois the law states that “employers with more than 25 employees must provide a private location, other than a toilet stall, where an employee can express the employee's breast milk in private and if possible to provide a refrigerator for storing breast milk that has been expressed.” It is completely mind boggling that it was suggested I use a bathroom. A bathroom? I’m sorry, but I’m sure you don’t want your food prepared in a bathroom next to a toilet, what makes you think my child does? This just goes to show that although women have gotten far in the workforce, we are still light years behind. New mommies should not feel ostracized or punished for choosing the most natural and nutritious way to feed their children.  Today I felt guilty and somewhat of a burden because I made the conscience decision to breast feed my child; and today I needed a clean place to pump and this company could not offer any viable options.



Mommies do the research and see if your state has laws relating to breast feeding in the workplace. We have a right to decide to breast feed and work. Companies step it up! Breastfeeding State Laws









Wednesday, May 16, 2012

Mother's Day!!

I know im a few days late, but I hope all mommies- old and new, had a great mother's day! My first mother's day was great!!

The morning of mother's day began with Dreux and Daddy performing a song and dance to some old Sam Cooke while Dreux slobbered over her hot pink onsie and laughed as Daddy swung her arms up and down in the air. It was followed by two beautifully written mother's day cards and the very first "family pic" ever taken of the three of us-about 2minutes after giving birth- along with  a picture frame. Dreux got mommie two new charms to add to the Chamilia bracelet Daddy bought. So now I have three charms- Dreux's birthstone pendant, a flower with the word "Mom" placed in the center, and a pink and white baby shoe. I threw on my bracelet, got dressed and headed to breakfast before we made out way to church!

All-in-all Dreux and Daddy made my first mother's day memorable and very special! I wouldn't trade these two for the world!

Tuesday, May 8, 2012

Recalled Items

Hey Mommies (And Daddies) Both Old and New,
Be Sure To Check Out Recently Recalled Items. We want our children safe! SAFETY FIRST
Click Here>>>>> U.S. Consumer Product Safety Commission

SERIOUS TOPIC- SIDS: PLEASE READ

SIDS

Sudden Infant Death Syndrome: The dreadful topic new moms HATE to think about, but it must be discussed and understood in order to reduce your child’s risk of falling victim. SIDS is the sudden death of infants under the age of one also known as “crib death”. Although there is still uncertainty as to why some infants’ lives are taken due to SIDS, there are some precautions parents can take to reduce the risk.

ü  Place sleeping babies on their backs. Some medical professionals believe SIDS can be caused by an infant’s inability to wake up and or the baby’s body to detect a build-up of carbon dioxide in the blood. [i] Placing an underdeveloped infant on their stomachs to sleep can increase their chances of suffocation.

ü  Avoid Co-Sleeping. Co-Sleeping involves sleeping with the parent(s). We have probably all done it; fallen asleep while nursing or feeding or ended up rocking ourselves to sleep while rocking baby to sleep. It happens, but we must be more aware of this. Studies have shown that Co-Sleeping with your baby can also increase the risk of SIDS. Co-sleeping is dangerous because of the possibility of accidental suffocation. ALWAYS place your baby in his or her bassinet or crib when sleeping. If you aren’t comfortable with the baby being in their room by themselves, put the bassinet or crib in the room with you until you are more comfortable.

ü  Remove soft bedding and loose articles from your baby’s crib/bassinet. Although these items may be cute and cuddly, they are also potentially hazardous to a sleeping infant. Babies should sleep on a firm mattress with no pillows or comforters. If you are worried about your baby being cold dress them warmly in sleepers and swaddle them in breathable blankets; tight enough they are unable to remove the blanket, but loose enough they can sleep and breathe comfortably.

ü  Swaddle your baby. Infants who are swaddled are less likely to roll over on their stomachs while sleeping. Also, swaddled babies are less likely than unswaddled babies to suffer obstructed breathing from loose blankets or other bedding. [ii]

**Check out how to swaddle: Baby Center: Swaddle Video

ü  Make sure the room is not too hot. Babies overheat faster than adults and their body temperature should be monitored especially while they are still young. Dress your baby comfortably and check to make sure they are not hot to the touch. A good rule of thumb is to keep the temperature in the house around 74°.

ü  Do not smoke around your baby or allow others to smoke around your baby. Cigarette smoke has been shown to possibly increase the risk of SIDS.

ü  Breastfed babies are less likely to die of SIDS. Keep it up ladies, breastfeeding, though sometimes difficult, has amazing benefits to you and baby.

ü  Give baby a pacifier. Some parents are against pacifiers for numerous reasons, but some studies suggest that pacifiers can help open your child’s airway and prevent them from falling into a deep sleep.

Please note that although these factors are not 100% preventative methods against SIDS, they are some helpful tips to remember and consider. SIDS is a very serious issue; moms (and dads) do the research and take precautions. Educate yourself and all others who will care for your child.

Monday, May 7, 2012

Young Workin' "Role Model"

Today at work I was asked to sit on a panel along with two other colleagues as we discussed our careers in front on 40 some-odd high school students. Anyone who knows me, knows I love things like this! Being in the forefront....speaking about...well...myself! :-) However, today was a bit of a challenge. I had to discuss and encourage 40 young adolescents to join the wonder world of accounting, when I myself don't even find it all too wonderful. When asked why we choose accounting and why we chose the firm, I had to think back to my original reason when I began interning here. If I had to answer that now I don't think I would have a legitimate reason. I ask myself that question every morning I get up and leave Dreux to come here. How quickly I can sometimes forget, I NEED THE MONEY.

Although I am still finding myself and my career path, I was able to stress the importance of networking, internships, and being involved on campus. When asked "so what do you do", I was actually able to answer it without giving the text book answer as to what auditing is. I was honest and hopefully insightful. But I left the question as to whether or not we considered leaving to pursue other professions up to my other two panelists to answer. I just smiled and prayed no one could sense my strong dislike. I love the "work-life-balance" questions and I answered by saying "ask me in a couple of years when my daughter is older". Now whether or not I'll be here, at another firm, or maybe a full time stay at home mom, is questionable. But I do know at the end of the day Dreux is FIRST. Whether at the office or in the home, I'm still a Young Workin' Mommie!

Wednesday, May 2, 2012

Birth Control!!!

After you have your little one your brain is so consumed with feeding, diaper changes, sleeping and just the everyday worries of motherhood, that you might not take the time to think about birth control. Altering giving birth, women are the MOST fertile; so unless you plan on having "Irish Twins", children born 11 months apart, it's important to discuss birth control options with your health care provider even before you give birth.

Today women have a lot of options for birth control:
•Oral contraception (pills)
•Shot
•Patch
•Vaginal Ring
•Intrauterine Device (IUD)
•Implant
•Vaginal Sponge

While some forms of birth control must be administered daily such as birth control pills, other methods, such as an IUD or Implant, can be inserted and lasts anywhere from 3-12 years. It's important to consider your options when planning for a family. Discuss your options early. The IUD, for instance, can be inserted at your 6 week postpartum checkup and can last up to 5 years. Also, if you are planning on breastfeeding, certain oral contraception is not safe and should be avoided.

Do your research and start planning ahead!

http:/www.plannedparenthood.org/mt/www.plannedparenthood.org/health-topics/birth-control-4211.htm