I guess it's getting pretty old that I start all my posts with "its been a while since i've posted" lol. So I won't say that. What I will say is that life as a mom to a four-year old is BUSY and because of the I just haven't found the time to sit and put all my thoughts to "paper". Oh, and have I mentioned I decided to take classes towards an Integrated Marketing Certificate program, Hubby and I are looking to buy our first home, I was recently promoted, oh and I'm still planning events. Yea, so between that, Pre-K activities, birthday parties, and gymnastics, Mommie & Daddie are QUITE busy!
It is such a pleasure though to watch our little one grow into her own little person with her own big personality. She is such an angel! Beautiful, smart, well-mannered, and honestly the sweetest kid I've possibly every come in contact with -and I don't say that because I birthed her! LOL
She's soooo awesome that Mommie & Daddie decided to have another!!! Yep thats right, baby number two is officially on the way! And Dreux couldn't be more excited. From small tummy rubs & kisses to Twinkle, Twinkle serenades, this baby is getting all the love from big sis Dreux. She is so protective of Mommie and Baby; reminding me that I need to eat more fruits and veggies and filling up my water cup when she thinks its too low! Its so cute watching her transform into this mature little person, super excited to teach her little sibling all she knows. "I will teach the baby how to talk" and "I will change her diaper". : )
The fact that within 5 months I will be a mother to two, is scary. Possibly scarier than finding out I was going to be a mother to one four years ago. LOL The breastfeedings, the sleepless nights, and diapers ALLLL over again while still tending to a 4-year old. Oh boy, I'm in for a treat!
Any advice???? Like how do you grocery shop with two kids? How do you get them both in the car seat when its freezing outside? How do I ensure Dreux doesn't begin to feel neglected when majority of my time and energy now belongs to the new baby? When do I sleep...two years from now? LOL I say this jokingly but these are real questions and concerns. I'm sure I'll get into the swing of things and before I know it I'll be a pro -whipping boobs out for feeding while assisting with homework.
Mommie & Daddie are excited nonetheless and can only pray for a healthy baby. And while Dreux is hoping for a sister, Mommie & Daddie have already claimed a boy! Guess we'll have to wait until next month to see if Dreux is getting a little brother or little sister! : )
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Monday, March 21, 2016
Thursday, June 25, 2015
Just Let Me Vent...
Where do I begin? Recently my mother in law gave me a super
cute “Super Mom” shirt which prompted this post. (Mind you I got the shirt 3
weeks ago, and I’m just getting around to this smh). My life has become
consumed with work; which can be a double edged sword. I landed some really
awesome contracts with some really awesome clients and they have been keeping
me busy! Not to mention my two best friends decided to get married and pregnant
around the same time! So for three straight weeks, my life was in bridal shower-baby
shower-wedding mode, in that order! But I’m not complaining! : ) From planning weddings;
to securing TV spots for clients; to speaking at an 8th grad
graduation; to actually fulfilling my full time duties for my company, I am
completely OVERWHELMED!!! But in a good way. Again, I’m not complaining. : ) I
did however decide not to take on anymore clients this summer (ironic because
the summer JUST began lol). But I owe this to my daughter and my husband. For
months my husband would ask every day “are you coming home tonight.” My answer,
of course, is always YES. But sometimes that meant I was walking in long after
he and Dreux had gone to bed. I saw something on Instagram recently that said “I’m
building a brand, I’m always working.” If that ain’t the truth. It’s difficult
when you are trying to build a brand. You don’t want to turn down any opportunity
to network or learn or take on projects. But I have completely worn myself out!
So I look at it like a mini summer vacation. This doesn’t mean I’m not working
though. I just got a contract with a school for an event in the fall, so naturally
all our planning will be over the summer. But I swear I’m not taking on another
one until after the fall. Oh, and there is this one event I’m planning. But I’m
on the board for the organization, so I have to do this one. But that’s it! Oh
wait, no, I’m planning our 10 year class reunion next year too. See, I just don’t
know when to quit. LOL I had amazing plans on spotlighting a different mom
every month. Well that went out the window unfortunately, due to my chaotic
life. I’m almost certain the people that were following my blog have completely
given up on me by now. I’m sorry guys! I have great intentions, I really do! LOL
One day I’ll have my life together and I’ll be able to tell my story on how I
did it and inspire the world. For now, this is what you get –A real life 26
year old wine and martini drinking wife & mom who does not have it entirely
together, but figuring it out along the way. So I apologize to “unresponded”
texts and e-mails, for passing out on the bed in my work clothes, for being
late to work, for missing dinner parties, and for forgetting to go grocery
shopping! LOL Pray for me ya’ll. Just because you may not see me working my
booty cheeks off, doesn’t mean I’m not! And to the most amazing husband, VP of Operations,
set-up/break-down personnel, therapist, pastor, and personal assistant out
there, baby you’re the real MVP! Thanks for supporting my crazy dreams, even if
that means you had to put yours to the side.
To my other hard working Mommies, please, please know you
aren’t in this alone. It tough, it’s frustrating, its time consuming, but you
got this! Keep pushing through. After all, these little ones are modeling their
selves after us! Let promise to nurture a next generation of independent
thinkers, role models, and excellent citizen to this world *smile*
Tuesday, March 24, 2015
Spotlight; Mommie-by-Marriage *Aaja*
Being a mom is a life adjustment. From pregnancy to child birth, your body and mind are both adjusting to this new life you are entering. As the child grows, you grow, and you soon become "accustomed" to parenthood. But what if you were never awarded the nine month "prep period" or if you somehow fell into motherhood? This month's spotlighted mom, Aaja, didn't birth her son, but she's quickly developing the tools needed to be a mom to her 6 year old stepson.
When Aaja met her husband Jawaun's son three years ago, the only thing on her mind was "I want him to like me." Establishing a relationship with her soon-to-be step son early on was important. But it wasn't an easy task for either party involved. When Aaja said yes to Jawaun's proposal after 8months of dating, not only was she saying yes to him, but yes to becoming a new mom to his son! That in itself is a commendable commitment. I've had many friends blatantly state they would never date a (wo)man with a child. I, myself, may have been victim to this as well. The thought of the "baby mama/daddy drama" alone can turn anyone away. A close friend of mine swore by this "code" for a long time. When she told me her new boyfriend had a son, I was completely floored. Well needless to say the relationship didn't last long because she couldn't deal with the fact of coming second in her boyfriend's life. This is very common. The child is essentially another person in the relationship that isn't going anywhere, and unless you are willing and ready to accept that, the relationship is bound to fail. It seems many 20 something-year-olds, male and female, tend to avoid relationships when the other party has a child.
Aaja's Advice:
That wasn't the case with this 24 year old image branding strategist. She knew her and Jawaun wanted a future together and that meant helping her son understand that she too would be his mom. Though her son's biological mother has shown to be a bit resistant to this new family dynamic, Aaja is not letting that discourage her efforts of being a great second mom to her husband's son.
"It takes a while to get used to someone else being in their child’s life in a similar capacity. It’s a big adjustment for everyone. The best advice that I received on being both a wife and a mother is to keep both my son and husband covered in prayer because God can do what I cannot do."
I admire Aaja for her diligence and her willingness to be an awesome Mommie-by-Marriage. The love for her husband and the love for her son is evident. Motherhood alone has it obstacles but accepting the task of helping to raise someone else's child, is a job she didn't have to commit too. But she did...she chose to be a mom. Despite the push back she may receive, she continues to put her family first and accepts the journey ahead.
Aaja's Advice:
I would tell other Mommies-by-Marriage to continue being consistent in their child’s life and training them up right. Also, no matter what the circumstances, respect is not optional. Lastly, talk to your child. Kids are smarter than we think and go through so much more than we realize. You might just have a breakthrough by listening to their heart.
Friday, February 27, 2015
Spotlight: "New Mommie"- *Niki*
Three months into motherhood, and 26 year old Service Teller
Manager Niki S., gives her two cents to YWM on how her life has changed since
becoming a Mommie. It’s a difficult task, and getting through the first 6months
can be challenging as these little creatures evolve every day. However, the
toughest part of any working mom is having to return to work. Managing your
time and your day around your child can be the biggest adjustment, and Niki can
definitely attest to that.
"I can't just run
a few errands or up and go out at the last minute. Everything requires
planning, and even then, I sometimes still can't get it right." Niki
explains.
"Getting it
right" just doesn't exist anymore. Mommies have to learn and accept their
"new norm." And that new norm just may mean getting up an hour and a
half earlier to be on time, or settling with the fact that you will never be on
time for anything else in life. (After three years I've regretfully settled for
the latter lol). But when you have commitments outside the home, like many of
us do, we can begin to feel very pressured; the pressures of being a good wife,
mother, and employee and trying your hardest not to fall short in any of those
areas
"I think I may have underestimated the
commitment level required [of motherhood], even when things get tough, and how
consuming life would begin to be.”
“I have a new found
respect for working moms. I don't know that I would've ever known how
challenging it is for us working moms without becoming one myself, which tells
me how much working moms are underestimated by coworkers and those without
children in general. I think there is always a concern of a mom not returning
to work after maternity leave or always having to call out because of a sick
baby; but I was lucky enough to have a supportive management team who's really
made me feel welcomed when I returned, while still showing care and compassion
when it came to my work schedule, my breast pumping needs, and my need to make
my daughter my number one priority.”
Niki, whom is originally from Chicago, relocated to Virginia
to attend college (the REAL HU, that is). She decided to stay in Virginia after
meeting and marrying her husband. Miles away from her family has proven to be
quite difficult especially since welcoming their first child. “I realized how much I really missed my mom
when she came to visit for Christmas - she fell in love with Gia right away!
It's still a bit difficult because it's nothing like having your mom around to
be a part of such an exciting time, like watching the little [one] grow and do
all of her "firsts".
Though Niki’s family is not around, she and the little one
are surrounded with plenty of love from her in-laws, to college friends, to
Sorority Sisters. Niki and Gia are in great hands. And although this former
“wine connoisseur” doesn’t divulge in her guilty pleasure as much, she wouldn’t
trade anything in the world for her new life as a hardworking, breastfeeding
mom. As challenging as it is, it is her daughter’s infections grin that
motivates her to keep going… “it really
does brighten up my day.”
Her advice to the New Working Mom: Don't underestimate the things you can do for your family and within your career once you become a mom. If you decide to breast feed, stick to it and surround yourself with people who supports your decision to do so because I had to learn that not everyone "gets it". I doubted my ability to breast feed because I thought I couldn't get past the pain and un comfort. Once I overcame that obstacle, I doubted my ability to continue once I returned to work, but my daughter is now 3 months old and I don't have any plans on stopping anytime soon. After learning more and more benefits to breast feeding and receiving support from other moms who breast fed, I am more encouraged to sacrifice whatever I need to in order to give my daughter this special gift.
Tuesday, January 20, 2015
Spotlight: "Mommie-2-B"- *Prerna*
I am super excited to kickoff my "spotlight" campaign; highlighting 12 different Mommies over the next year! These Young Workin' Mommies are awesome and have such compelling stories, I had to get them involved with YWM."Kids don’t need a lot of things they need to be loved and cared"
My first Mommie is Mommie-2-Be Prerna, Internal Audit Supervisor. (My old supervisor :)) After experiencing a miscarriage early last year, she is so excited and anxious to finally see and hold her new baby! With only about two weeks shy of her due date - and with no true birthing plan other than to "go with the flow" (lol)- she opened up to YWM to share her thoughts on mother's rights, her pregnancy experience and advice.
What
was your initial response to finding out you were pregnant? Excited yet very
nervous as I had a miscarriage before.
How
has pregnancy changed your life (i.e. moody, extremely cautious, tired, etc.) [The] past nine months
have been amazing and crazy at the same time. Since we had a miscarriage
earlier this year, when we found out the second time we were expecting, we were
ecstatic and scared at the same time. We didn’t let anyone know until I was
four months along. Every time we went for an ultrasound it was like sitting on
pins and needles until we heard the heartbeat. I sometimes go through that even
now!! I will be relieved when I hold my baby in my arms.
What
has been the best/”not-so-best” thing about your pregnancy? OMG- I didn’t know how amazing the human body was….we sure do miracles!! Best thing is to feel the baby move…it’s an awesome feeling. Not so best is a long list- burpy, farty,
bloaty, acidity, fatigue, backache, swollen feet etc. etc. LOL
What
excites you the most about becoming a new mom?
Meeting the
little being that my husband and I created together. I am excited about holding
it, seeing it grow, say mom and dad.
Have
you and/or your partner taken classes to prepare for birth? (i.e. Lamaze,
birthing classes) Yes, we took Child
birth basics and Breastfeeding. My
husband thought it was the best thing we did, as he feels a lot more prepared now.
Do
you have a birthing plan? (i.e. water birth, natural birth, home birth, drugs
(lol) etc.) Not really. I am going to go with the flow.
What
plans have you made in terms of returning to work/maternity leave?
I am planning on
taking 12 weeks off.
What
is the best advice you have received so far about pregnancy and/or motherhood? One time I was worrying about how expensive it was going to be to
have kids and a friend said, “kids don’t need a lot of things they need to be
loved and cared” this stuck with me.
What
advice can you give another Young Working Mommies-2-B? I am trying to
figure out what’s the best way to balance work and personal life, especially
when you have a little one dependent on you and no family support around. My
family lives in India and my husband’s family is in Michigan. I can’t say
follow your heart because financial reasons prevent a lot of us from staying
home for the first year and take care of our kids. Since, I have become
pregnant, I have begun to realize that US laws are not mother friendly. In
comparison to the rest of the world where women get 6 months to a year of paid
leave (55%) of their pay. I am starting to seek out senators who are pro-active in fighting for mother's rights and I would request other young working mothers to do the same.
So, Mommies-2-Be, are you familiar with FMLA? Have you researched your company's policy on maternity leave and/or short term disability? Know YOUR rights and plan ahead!
Next Month's Mommie Spotlight---The BRAND NEW Mommie! :)
Tuesday, January 6, 2015
NEW! Mommie Spotlight
When I first started this blog, nearly 3 years ago next month, I had no idea what I wanted to do. I just wanted to write and to establish a platform to show the world that yes you can be a young successful mother despite what norms society has placed on us. When I made my first entry, I was 8months pregnant, un-wed, living in my own apartment miles away from my boyfriend and daughter's dad. I had no idea what the future held, but I wanted to share my journey and to show the world how cool it is being a mom! LOL My blog has been my therapy and a way to share life's little moments with my close family and friends.
For a few month's I've been thinking of ways to really get other mom's involved with my blog and do something a little different. I think its so important to highlight all moms in the hopes other moms can be inspired. My experiences are different than those of the "Young Single Mom", or the "Young Mom with Twins", or the "Young Divorced Mom." We all have a story to tell. So knowing that, I've created something new, my "Mommie Spotlight" segment. Every month I will highlight a mom and allow her to tell her story and to share her experiences which are significantly different than mine. I have a few Mommies in mind I want to "spotlight" but if you are interested, please email me at dinai.emerald@gmail.com.
First entry coming later this month..."Young Workin' Mom-2-B". I'm excited! : )
Monday, November 17, 2014
Time For Baby No. 2....
Or not....lol
"Do you want more kids?"
"When are you having another one?"
"You know you don't wanna have them too far apart, right?!"
Oh the pressure to have another child! As the months lead up to Dreux's 3rd birthday, these are the questions I have been getting. A mother of two?? It SOUNDS intimidating. What do I do with two kids? I barely make it to work on time with the one I have now! Before I became a mother, I always said I didn't want my children to be too far apart in age. Two-three years was the max for me. And definetely no more than three kids. My sister and I are about four and a half years apart and I've always felt there was such a huge gap between us. We didn't really start liking each other until I went away to college (LOL). Now, at 26 and her a few months shy of 22, we get along great! But the years leading up were a bit rough. I didn't want that for my kids. I always wished my sister and I were a bit closer in age. However, these last three years of Dreux's life have flown by and having another child wasn't even on the horizon! But with all the questions about me having another one, I've definelty been giving it some thought! If I stick to my original plan, I should be popping one out soon!
When should we have another one? How do I plan for a second...we didn't necessarily plan for the first. :) Two kids means double everything! And double tuition just doesn't sound all that appealing to me! But I guess it would be nice for Dreux to have a sibling and stop claiming the ones at school. Her "sister" at school is actually about to become a big sister as her mom is expecting another one in a few months. But am I ready for that responsibility? Will my car even fit two car seats? How do you balance a toddler and an infant? My center of gravity just doesn't seem equipped for that. In all honestly though, when is a good time to start "trying" for another? Should we purchase our home first? Wait until Dreux is in kindergarten? Or do I wait until I'm more established in my career? It will probably never be the "right" time given all things to consider. I guess you just go for it and pray for the best? Right? I don't know, but I can tell you this Mommie needs to wait a little while longer. Play dates will just have to suffice until we can give Dreux a sibling lol Sorry guys, but baby number two is not on the way, just yet.
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